||[Feb. 13th, 2006|01:07 am]
mr feeny's house of snark
Most recently, I had been talking to my friends while we were just hanging out, doing what most bored teens do: finding a way to get more inebriated than we already were.|
That's not the point, however. I mentioned to both of them that I probably wouldn't be hanging out with them as frequently for the next month and a half, as my spending money is dwindling right now and I need it to last me as long as possible. Their response: "get a job." Obviously, they didn't know jack shit about my situation, but I was dumb enough to mention Social Security and apparently that didn't stop them from claiming that I "need a job." There's several factors as to why getting a job, right now, would not be beneficial to me, especially since I need as much money as I need to get to pay my school expenses. Getting a job wouldn't help even a small bit, as I'd be far less than whatever I'm getting on a monthly basis now. They, however, are both relatively rich and live with their parents - they don't have expenses and study full time like I do.
Okay, that isn't the point to this entry, either. I'm meandering. It does, however, introduce what I'm trying to talk about: we're often so hooked on our own perceptions that we don't give much thought in applying it to someone else.
It all goes back to that spoiled bitch of an Austrian princess turned French royalty, Marie Antoinette. When told the poor were starving, all she said was "let them eat cake." She, being overwhelmingly rich, couldn't even consider the fact that maybe the poor, who were actually starving, had food (that being cake, of all things). In a lot of ways, I often find a lot of people doing this - myself included.
Having a conversation with someone doing this is like being at a party where everyone's gathered around this one girl at the party. She is constantly talking while everyone around her vacantly nod their heads in false agreement. She could make some really stupid remark and you can correct her, but there'll be this moment of silence, and then you're ignored while the popular girl goes on incessantly talking. They can't help but only hear what they think, and anything that may be countered against any of that is like trying to make water go right a 15-inch thick brick wall.
We, as humans, can't help ourselves. All we really have to base on the world around us is our own perception of it, and it's upsetting when it's threatened. It's something of a defense mechanism to either be incredibly stubborn or just to completely ignore another's view. It's hard to convince anyone of anything unless they decided to change it themselves, because at least they're the ones who are doing it and not someone else. It's why nothing changes instantly and happens slowly. You want to wish more people were less racist, homophobic, or ignorant all at once, but all you can hope is that the future generation will be different.
If I were told that life was created from trans-dimensional sperm ejaculated into the primordial oozes by a neon red T-Rex that rides in a giant spaceship shaped like a pineapple, I'm quite sure I could reject that completely - I believe in evolution. I'd also say it's the dumbest possible thing I've heard anywhere about the origin of life. Any! I know, that's extreme, but we've heard enough Intelligent Design, have we? Anyway, such a criticism from me would lead to one of the following responses:
"You should be more tolerant of someone else's views!"
"That isn't very accepting!"
Really, when was the last time anyone was ever fully tolerant or accepting of someone else's idea? Sure, we love to think we can tolerate things we can't stand, but we also want to be given the privilege to bash that thing's brains out at times, too. We don't because it isn't something anyone would do, at least in a social context. As for accepting; we can't stomach 90% of the things most people say - I sure don't. Opinions are fine and dandy and you can have as many of them as you want. However, just because it's your opinion doesn't mean anyone is obligated to be agreeing with it. Regardless of being your view - well, too fucking bad if someone thinks it's bullshit. I don't care if someone likes George W. Bush, I still think the man's a fucking moron and anyone who thinks otherwise is kidding themselves. Why should I sugar-coat it? If you had the chance, you'd call me a dirty Commie, wouldn't you? The fact people sugar-coat just means they're being passive-agressive and being that is far worse than just outright being honest. A lot of us don't do that, though. We're stuck in this mindset where we must somehow be careful of everyone's feelings or else everyone will be offended. Hey, if someone wanted to ask me an urgently serious question, I'd prefer getting it right then and now rather than being bullshitted (at least I do, most of the time).
We hold our views sacred because they are our's. Sometimes we do take them too seriously, sometimes so much that we can't possibly let anyone tell us otherwise. We can turn a simple disagreement of musical taste into an argument of who is lower on the evolutionary ladder and make an agreement on a movie to be words that should be etched into the stone that is eternity. Any other time, we like to believe what we want to believe until we say otherwise - screw everyone else to Hell!